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Surprise [10 May 2007|01:56pm]

For no reason at all I decided to pick up the journal again :-P It's only been almost a year.

A lot's happened in that time (including multiple marriages, immigration, and the like)

Don't have time for the full life story now but hopefully more will come later in the week)
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Pie Jesu Domine, dona eis requiem, sempiternam requiem. [11 Sep 2006|11:32am]
[ mood | thankful ]

Since it's the 5 year anniversary of 9/11 I thought it would be a good time to re-post what I had written on the 1 year anniversary.
My dad worked at the Pentagon until 2 weeks ago and was there on that day, so even though it's not something that pre-occupies me all the time, it's always on the back of my mind.

WRITTEN 9/11/02

I guess like most everyone else in this country, I spent a good part of the day today reflecting over the last year, specifically 9/11/01. I don’t really have a congruous memory of the day – mostly snippets of events, starting with an IM from my friend Shelby telling me about the first plane and ending with getting my dad safely home from the Pentagon. In my mind, looking back, the entire day is compressed down into only a few minutes – but the time between the IM and walking back in the door at home was over 6 1/2 hours.

I remember the IM, then checking the news on the internet, being surprised that it wasn’t one but two planes that had hit.
I remember Juanita calling me to make sure I knew about the Pentagon, I didn’t, and then the agonizing attempts to reach my dad on his cell, in his office, everywhere I could think. Repeating the word “please” over and over in my head the entire time.
I remember wondering around the hall at work chewing my thumb nail, not sure what to do next.
I remember being sure that something else was going to happen once everyone from the Pentagon was outside in the parking lot, so I left work knowing that I wouldn’t feel safe until he was home.
I remember driving down the highway, heading to my parent’s house-which is closer to the Pentagon then my apartment was-and marveling at how empty the roads were, except for a line of police cars or motorcycles that would pass occasionally.
I remember getting to their house, making plans to meet my dad, and realizing I had left my apartment with no money and barely any gas in my car. Going to my mom’s “secret stash” of money and finding only change, counting out $7, putting it in a zip lock bag and heading out.
I remember the incredible traffic on the road leading to the Pentagon, having to pull behind a restaurant in the shade to keep my car from overheating while trying to reach my dad again to make alternate plans.
I remember the sound of an airplane overhead and seeing everyone stop to look up and wonder where it was going.
I remember listening to the news and hearing the unsubstantiated reports – there was a bomb at the State Department, the Capital had been hit...
I remember finally seeing my dad after waiting so long and being so worried. I remember the relief in my mom’s voice when she heard that I got him home.
I remember spending the rest of the day saying a silent “thank you” to God.
I remember the phone ringing every 5 minutes while I was at my parent’s house – to the point where I started answering the phone “he’s ok.”
I remember thinking how lucky it was that I had bought my first cell phone 2 days before.
I remember being obsessed with the news, bringing a radio to work, spending a lot of days looking at news footage until finally breaking down 2 days later.
I remember for the next month, making my dad call me every night as he was heading home and then I could relax.

That night we all drove down to the Pentagon to pick up my dad’s car, we weren’t allowed in to see anything, but we could still see the smoke rising up from the fires.

A week and a half afterwards I went to the memorial outside the Pentagon. Almost the entire lawn was covered with American flags. I remember walking around, solemnly reading the messages people left, but the one that had the biggest effect on me was the bag of toys someone had left for the children on the plane.

The day after, our church had a memorial service of sorts and my dad stayed at home. I remember the people who came up to us afterwards to tell us how crestfallen they were when they saw my mom and me walk in without my dad, and how relieved they were to find out he was ok.

At church tonight during times of silent reflection, I tried to organize all these scenes in my mind to come up with a timeline of what happened. Looking back, parts of it seem like a weird story I once heard. Parts are getting harder and harder to remember.

Last year the air was still and calm, my mom told me that a friend told her that the wind today was the souls of everyone who was killed last year, coming back to visit.

When the first plane struck the first building, God’s heart was the first to break.

Merciful Lord Jesus, give them rest, everlasting rest.

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[10 Jun 2006|08:21pm]
Al and I made a fairly big decision today.

Since we're being fucked over by US Immigration (for 3 weeks they've been at a day before our processing date - and that means it's still probably at least 2 months before he's in the country and THEN once he is, in their brilliance, the government has decided that it totally makes sense that he has to APPLY to travel if he wants to go home, because if he doesn't they consider the marriage abandoned - even if I'm traveling with him)

We were going to have a family wedding on Sept 23 and then a big reception in Toronto on Sept 30th. But there's a very very VERY good chance he won't be in the country by then (which would mean we would have been married for 9+ months and apart for that whole time, except for visits up there)

So we're going forward with the reception on the 30th, but depending on what the story is by the beginning of July - we may be postponing the actual wedding ceremony until April. - making it by far the longest wedding celebration in history.

Since we decided on that, I felt a lot of stress lift off me - and realized that I've been fairly depressed about this for the last few weeks (finally breaking down and crying pretty much all afternoon)
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[25 Apr 2006|09:19am]
been a million years since I updated - so much is going on

We're STILL waiting for Al's paperwork to come thru for the K3 visa. We should hopefully know something before I go up for Memorial Day but it amazes me that this torturous hell is the best they can offer as far as the "fast" visa - the best they can do is have you apart from your spouse for a minimum of about 3 months. Gee - I wonder why so many people come in ILLEGALLY if it takes so freaking long to come in legally.
Not only that, but good luck if something goes wrong or if you need help - cuz there's none available.

Work is going moderately well - very busy, but got a very very very good raise (like 3 times what i was expecting) so at least I'm appreciated.

I've been sort of reading posts, as much as I can :)

That's about all for now I guess
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[09 Mar 2006|05:39pm]
Off to visit Al for the weekend :)

We got our receipt for the K3 visa so we're (hopefully) about 60 days from being together
(though worst case is about 180 days)
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[25 Feb 2006|01:22pm]
ok so I see this headline this morning

Thieves make off with $26,000 of beer

and I have to wonder...what were Al and his friends doing last night???
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[24 Feb 2006|10:38pm]
Ok so I'm watching some wedding program where the bride just doubled her budget.

Her original budget was $100,000!!!

And now she's at at least $200,000!!!! Can you imagine spending that much on a wedding????

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[07 Feb 2006|09:50pm]
Thank you everyone for your prayers. My dad made it through his surgery and is resting in his own room in the hospital.

It was definitely hard to see him shortly after surgery. To see someone who is usually the rock of the family look so fragile is unbelivably hard.

They'll make him get up and walk tomorrow

I'll keep everyone updated.

For now - I'm totally exhausted and going to bed soon...very soon
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[03 Feb 2006|09:25pm]
Al's back in Canada :(

This time at the airport was the hardest it's ever been to leave him - for both of us.

Now - to bed early and I get the whole bed to myself :-P
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update of the week [10 Jan 2006|07:41pm]
[ mood | happy ]

Al and I got married last Friday morning at 11am - I highly recommend a very small personal ceremony (in addition to the big 5 million people wedding) it's nice that we'll actually remember what was said rather then having spent the entire time thinking about the caterer or the uncomfortable dress or whatever.

After that we had party after party and then sometime between Sunday morning and Sunday night I got food poisoning. Which I highly recommend as a version of weight control - I lost about 8 pounds since Sunday night. But most of it came when I barfed up my liver :-P

Anyway - we're so happy, though I don't think we're like most just married couples since we're not all lovey dovey, we're just hanging out mostly :-P

We missed our appointment with the lawyer cuz I couldn't get out of bed yesterday, out next appt is on Jan 23rd and then Al has to go to back to Canada on Feb 3rd for however long it takes to have the Visa processed.

So that's what's happening with me - what's going on with you? :-D

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[05 Jan 2006|04:55pm]
Ok quick update

Al made it across yesterday - we ended up buying him a last minute plane ticket so he could prove that he had a return plan - so he'll be here until Feb 3rd, and then will come back when his visa has processed.

It's been a roller coaster the last few days, but he's here and we're getting married tomorrow :) We picked up the marriage license (phew)

so things are good right now - we meet with the lawyer on Monday and hopefully things will still be ok after that.

Ok gotta run :)

Thank you everyone for your thoughts and prayers! They really have helped
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[03 Jan 2006|10:34am]
[ mood | anxious ]

So I'm trying kind of hard not to panic. Al and his best friend left to start driving down and should have crossed the border about an hour ago but Al's phone has been off since I got to work and it's not like him to check in once he's across.
SO I'm a little afraid that there was some kind of problem and they won't let him cross.

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[02 Jan 2006|11:02am]
[ mood | happy ]

Not that I'm just realizing this now but - holy crap I'm getting married in 4 days

Al will be here on Wednesday

It will be an interesting transition since I've never had a roommate and have lived on my own for about 8 years now :-P

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[01 Jan 2006|12:01pm]
That was certainly the most...interesting New Year's Eve celebration I've been to in awhile.

3 gay men
a straight stripper
a drunk stranger
dead battery

And finally home safe to bed at about 2

The stripper came to the party with one girl and then tried to leave with someone else

Good times had by all...sort of
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[27 Dec 2005|08:28pm]
[ mood | amazed ]

So I've been reading - apparently in order to be an adequate bride, I need to awaken my inner bitch - cuz WOW I'm totally not treating people horribly enough.

As the bride to be - I'm supposed to do things like tell people how much I'm spending per plate on them so that's how much I expect them to spend on me, order people around all day, expect my friends to spend thousands of dollars and tons of time catering to me.

Yep - I definitely have some work to do.

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For my mom - the teacher :) [26 Dec 2005|08:07pm]
[ mood | amazed ]

Dear Ann Landers.

I'm sure your readers have seen the reality TV shows that are currently popular. Most of them involve some sort of physical and mental challenge. I have a game for them.

"Drop three businessmen and three businesswomen into an elementary school classroom for six weeks. Each contestant will be provided with a class of 28 students and a copy of the school district's curriculum. Each class will have five learning-disabled children, three with Attention Deficit Disorder, one gifted child, two who speak limited English and three labeled as having severe behavioral problems.

"Each contestant must complete lesson plans at least three days in advance with curriculum objectives, and modify, organize and create materials to match. They will be required to teach students, handle misconduct, implement technology, document attendance, write referrals, correct homework, make bulletin boards, compute grades, complete report cards, communicate with parents and arrange conferences. They must also supervise recess and monitor the hallways, and complete drills in case of fire, tornadoes or shooting attacks. They must attend workshops, faculty meeting, and curriculum development meetings. They must also tutor students who are behind.

"The winner of the contest will be allowed to return to his or her job.

A Reader from Harrisburg, PA

I am constantly amazed at what she does and what she accomplishes and how many students remember her after years and years - knowing that she will always have a hug and a smile for them :)

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Random thoughts [21 Dec 2005|01:07pm]
[ mood | amused ]

Evolution is a theory

just like gravity is a theory

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[12 Dec 2005|08:57pm]
[ mood | excited ]

So apparently our September wedding is THE event of the fall.

You know how there are those far away relatives that you invite but don't think they'll say yes - even though we haven't actually invited anyone, they're already making plans to come out to VA for the wedding.

it's great to be so loved - but I'm suddenly feeling like I need to see how many people my church can hold since this may be standing room only!

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[12 Dec 2005|10:35am]
Happy Birthday my darling Alen :)

I can't wait to see you this weekend :)
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[06 Dec 2005|10:48am]
[ mood | happy ]

I'm not sure if anyone else is having this problem but apparently I'm only being emailed 1 out of every 3 comments people leave me in LJ.

So if you leave me a wonderfully nice comment and I don't respond right away, I probably didn't get the email.

in other news - it's very beautiful and snow covered outside :) it looks like Christmas

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